One of the popular trends in self-development circles at the moment seems to be to have a word to live by in your new year. For example words like passion, humility, love or courage.
I tried, but there’s no way I can distill what I want 2017 to mean to me into just one word.
2016 was a year in which I achieved every goal I set myself, in terms of my physique and competition accomplishments. But there were other areas of my life that obviously had to be put on the back burner for that to happen. Those other areas will be coming more to the forefront this year.
Instead of one word, I will be using a question, a mantra, to achieve this year. I believe if you use this too you will be able to make 2017 your best year yet!
One of the best moments of my life!
My goal is to stay true to one simple question: “What would a person who respected themselves do in this situation?”
People who respect and love themselves:
- Don’t stay in abusive relationships.
- Don’t subject themselves to hateful thoughts and actions.
- Don’t poison their bodies with too many chemicals.
- Don’t feed themselves rubbish.
- Don’t hold back from enjoying food that nourishes them, but also don’t follow rigid rules or restrictions particularly in fun social settings.
- Don’t say yes when they should say no.
- Don’t say no when they want to say yes.
- Don’t skip workouts that improve their health.
- Don’t bombard themselves with ridiculously photo-shopped images that make them feel bad about themselves or compare themselves to others.
- Don’t skip having meaningful relationships with other people (and animals) in real life.
- Don’t seek clicks, likes, followers, money and momentary fame at the expense of self-respect or being true to their own integrity.
- Don’t deny their intuition, dreams and goals, or sabotage themselves from achieving them.
- Don’t over-work or over-stress themselves, but also don’t under-estimate what they can achieve or how much work it may take to get there.
- Don’t constantly try to fit into other people’s constraints of how they should be, but stay true to themselves.
- Don’t feel in constant competition with others, but instead lift others up, motivate them, help them, support them and understand that other people’s happiness is not their responsibility.
- Don’t miss out on quality sleep, unless it is to have an adventure.
- Don’t lose their sense of wonder, curiosity, gratitude, hope and optimism.
- Don’t take time and health for granted, but are grateful for the many blessings in their lives.
- Don’t fail to forgive themselves if they mess up, but also don’t make excuses or fail to learn from mistakes.
- Don’t expect to achieve things without working for them and understand that the journey is just as important as the destination.
- Don’t say no to adventures, or think they will do fun things later and then end up not doing them.
- Don’t be selfish with their money, time, energy, love and compliments.
- Don’t skip self care time or having fun.
I know there are many more things, but people who love themselves don’t overwhelm themselves by trying to fix everything at once.
Whatever your year may bring, may it bring you self love, peace and happiness. Let your light shine!